Last night while stuffing my face with marble cake with chocolate icing...a definite no-no, I saw a news blurb on the death of 32 year-old actress Brittany Murphy. Of course I spit out my cake when the broadcaster said she died of full cardiac arrest. She left behind a husband and a cast of family and friends. The L.A. coroner is unsure, but it is told that the arrest is due to natural causes. Of course it will take a while for toxicology and other autopsy results to come back.
NATURAL CAUSES!!! How does a 32 year-old woman die of natural causes? It hits home because I am 31 years-old. We don't know when it is our time. We don't know how we will go? We just need to remember to live life to the fullest. We need to tell the people that we love that we love them everyday. Live, love and dance like there is no tomorrow.
Here is my homage to Brittany. A friend and I were reliving a great Brittany moment, "Rolling Wit the Homies" last Friday before her untimely death. Rest in Peace, Brittany. I hope that you found peace and thanks for sharing your life and craft with others.
Thursday, December 17, 2009
I remember times when I "fell" in love. Bending over backwards to make this person your world and he can't even call you when he promised. Running and completing his every whim; only to be waiting two hours at Houlihan's alone because he stood you up once again. You surrender your body, mind and spirit to this person leaving you empty and weak. You confront the person in regards to his ill treatment, he twist your words and get angry at you. You now apologize to him because you are convinced it somehow is your fault. The relationship is the world's tallest and fastest roller coaster, when you're up...it's fucking great. When you're down...the hurt cuts to your core. But you are in love and scared to be alone.
Bobby Caldwell's song, "What You Won't Do For Love", sums it up very nicely:
What you won't do, do for love
You tried everything
But you don't give up
In my world only you
Make me do for love
What I would not do
I finally woke up one day, tired of the pain and tears. I realized I deserved so much better. His actions were not made from love. I weened myself from the drug of "falling" in love. I relapsed many different times and with different people, each rehab session becoming harder to work through.
I once heard an acquaintance of mine say you never "fall" in love; when you fall you get hurt. He is right...I still have the scars.
(photo from photobucket)
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
People go through renovation periodically. Harper's Bazaar had a great article in its new January 2010 issue on reinvention. The article focused on celebrities and designers like Madonna (the master of physical reinvention), Marc Jacobs and Karl Lagerfeld. These individuals took their physical appearance and molded themselves into the symbols they are today.
A major renovation of self is displayed by the ex-escort gone columnist, Ashley Dupre. The escort of former New York Governor, Eliot Spitzer. She has transformed herself, with the help of the New York Post, from madam to sex and relationship columnist.
I am starting my journey of reconstruction and renovation, but how does one renovate themselves internally?